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Check out my family adventure reviews here. I need help parenting a child with ADHD. I wish I had known when parenting a child with ADHD. My hubby and I did not communicate with the school too much about our son and his ADHD. Either they have the stigma of ADHD, or the stigma of the bad kid. I started the conversation with my son’s educators right from the start, sharing behaviors I knew would be distracting, my expectations of him in the classroom and concerns about his education and abilities. This quickly places you and the educators on the same page and teaches them that you are open and an ally.
As we sat in our teacher’s meeting with two teachers, two counselors, one special education teacher, the hubs and me — totally not overwhelming, right? I listened to an obviously frustrated teacher tell me all the things my son was doing that he shouldn’t be doing. However, she just kept rehashing everything he did wrong, repeatedly. We tried to give them some insight into our son but I could tell the frustrations were too raw. It’s important to realize that parenting ADHD includes involving others in the process.
By the next meeting my husband and I consciously chose to make sure the team we were meeting with knew all the amazing cool things about my son. He is a whiz in science, he loves helping people, he is hilarious, he is amusingly sarcastic, and so much more! We watched their conversations about our real-life-son, not just the frustrating student, change before our eyes. This frustrated teacher started complimenting my son at school on his science scores and laughing with him. They feel emotion deep in their soul and sometimes you would never know. Kids with ADHD don’t have different emotions from most of their peers.
They feel hurt, anger, sadness, discouragement, laziness and worry just like everyone else does. What is different for many kids with ADHD is that these feelings seem to be more frequent and intense. They also seem to last longer. Take the time to ask your child about their feelings, with open-ended questions.
Pay attention to their body language and demeanor. Once their emotions overflow, sometimes it is hard to have a logical conversation with them. Parenting ADHD is about listening and engaging with your child. Most of us in the trenches of ADHD never intend to shame our child.
Your 5-year-old little brother has his shoes on, why on earth don’t you? This makes them feel less than and you are essentially comparing their behaviors. Comparison brings nothing but hurt feelings and resentment. We also had to engage a strict hand with the non-ADHD siblings.