Please forward this methods of socialization of children screen to 209. Parenting articles, news and tips on raising happy, healthy, successful kids and teens. For one reason or another, some children do not develop social skills as easily as others.
There is probably nothing so painful for a parent as the rejection of his child. Parents need to take the long view of social problems and to map out a plan to solve them quite as carefully and thoughtfully as they would consider academic or health problems. Social Milestones All children go through definitive phases of social development. The infant or very young child plays alone quite happily, babbling to himself and occasionally sharing a treasure with mother or father. If another child wanders onto the scene, he is likely to get clonked with a block or pushed out of the circle of play.
Johnny’s playmate goes home in a huff or when Johnny barges in the door crying. I’m never gonna play with him again! Eventually the group grows larger-to three children and to four-and by the time the child enters kindergarten, he is able to join and to enjoy group experiences and to take his lumps with the others. Social Programming There are times when a parent must reach out for help, and it is generally the mother, who, faced with this assignment, is going to have to scan the available candidates in the neighborhood and to select a child who would make an appropriate playmate. At this age and under these circumstances boys and girls play equally well together. It is wise for her to approach the child’s mother and explain the situation.
She can make it a special occasion-lunch or a tea party. Refreshments may be served first, and then the youngsters may have a short play period. The moment either child shows signs of boredom or restlessness, the visit should be brought to an end. As these one-to-one visits become more commonplace, mother can structure a simple activity which the children can handle without her-such as blowing soap bubbles or playing with clay. If the activity goes well, she should fade into the woodwork for five or ten minutes, keeping well within earshot so that she can step in if the going gets rough. The Next Step Eventually, if things continue to progress well, the young child should be allowed to try a short visit to the neighbor’s house. The mother should accompany the child to the appointed place and make arrangements to pick him up at a specified time, suggesting that she be contacted by phone if the visit needs to be terminated earlier.