In trying to boost kids’ self-esteem, we may be tearing it down. Learn how to build a healthy sense of confidence in children. Readers, preparing a child to swim have some news that may be seriously hard to take — but after the shock has worn off, we promise your family will be better off because of it.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being proud of your kids and wanting them to know how you feel so they feel good, too. The problem is that it’s incredibly easy to go overboard. Positive Pushing: How to Raise a Successful and Happy Child. But that’s not how it works. Self-esteem depends on your internal ability to generate positive feelings about your accomplishments — it’s not something other people can give you. And though it seems counterintuitive, kids actually develop it by struggling and sometimes falling short when they face new challenges.
Nonstop cheerleading can short-circuit that process and trigger a cascade of changes that ultimately erode kids’ confidence. First, it can lead to that entitled I-can-do-no-wrong type of thinking. Over time, their motivation may come to depend on it. Even worse, they may be unable to achieve much without it. They have no real proof of their capabilities and begin to doubt themselves entirely. Positive Discipline series of books and classes.