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Know the facts about bullying, even if you don’t think it affects your child. Unfortunately, teasing is often part of growing up — almost every child experiences it. But it isn’t always as innocuous as it seems. Teasing becomes bullying when it is repetitive or when there is a conscious intent to hurt another child. Researchers estimate that 20 to 30 percent of school-age children are involved in bullying incidents, as either perpetrators or victims.
Bullying can begin as early as preschool and intensify during transitional stages, such as starting school in 1st grade or going into middle school. Victims of bullying are often shy and tend to be physically weaker than their peers. They may also have low self-esteem and poor social skills, which makes it hard for them to stand up for themselves. Bullies consider these children safe targets because they usually don’t retaliate. If your child is the victim of bullying, he may suffer physically and emotionally, and his schoolwork will likely show it. Grades drop because, instead of listening to the teacher, kids are wondering what they did wrong and whether anyone will sit with them at lunch. If bullying persists, they may be afraid to go to school.
Problems with low self-esteem and depression can last into adulthood and interfere with personal and professional lives. They are more apt to use tobacco and alcohol, and to be abusive spouses. Some studies have even found a correlation with later criminal activities. First, give your child space to talk. If she recounts incidences of teasing or bullying, be empathetic.
If your child has trouble verbalizing her feelings, read a story about children being teased or bullied. You can also use puppets, dolls, or stuffed animals to encourage a young child to act out problems. Once you’ve opened the door, help your child begin to problem-solve. Role-play situations and teach your child ways to respond. You might also need to help your child find a way to move on by encouraging her to reach out and make new friends.
She might join teams and school clubs to widen her circle. Adults need to intervene to help children resolve bullying issues, but calling another parent directly can be tricky unless he or she is a close friend. Try to find an intermediary: even if the bullying occurs outside of school, a teacher, counselor, coach, or after-school program director may be able to help mediate a productive discussion. If you do find yourself talking directly to the other parent, try to do it in person rather than over the phone. Don’t begin with an angry recounting of the other child’s offenses. Set the stage for a collaborative approach by suggesting going to the playground, or walking the children to school together, to observe interactions and jointly express disapproval for any unacceptable behavior.
Check with your local school district to see if it has such a program. Schools and parents can work effectively behind the scenes to help a child meet and make new friends via study groups or science-lab partnerships. Ask the teacher if she sees similar behavior at school, and enlist her help in finding ways to solve the problem. If she hasn’t seen any instances of teasing, ask that she keep an eye out for the behavior you described. If the teacher says your child is being teased, find out whether there are any things he may be doing in class to attract teasing. Ask how he responds to the teasing, and discuss helping him develop a more effective response. After the initial conversation, be sure to make a follow-up appointment to discuss how things are going.