Children with Aspergers and High-Teaching communication to children Autism characteristically have very individual diagnostic profiles with symptoms falling in the areas of communication, socialization, and restricted interests. Most notable is the impairment in communication and social interaction, a far-reaching challenge which impacts daily activities and relationships at home, school and work. Though they want to be accepted by their friends, Aspergers children tend to be very hurt and frustrated by their lack of social competency. The worse they perform socially, the more negative feedback they get from peers, so the worse they feel and perform.
Aspergers children take things very literally. This may mean that it becomes difficult for them to follow a lot of what their peers are talking about. Neurotypical peers may get the Aspergers child into trouble because, while often bright in some subjects, he is gullible when it comes to social behavior. Some children and teens with Aspergers learn that they have to ask a question to start a conversation, but then, instead of listening to the answer, they ask question after question, in effect drilling their peers and making them feel uncomfortable.
Their difficulties reading social cues cause them to irritate peers. They have passions, certain things that they focus on, but they may have a hard time talking about anything else, which is often annoying to peers. They may not understand social banter, and so they become easy targets for bullying and teasing. If so, then alarm bells should be going off. You know changes need to happen! Social rejection has devastating effects in many areas of functioning.
Because the Aspergers child tends to internalize how others treat him, rejection damages self-esteem and often causes anxiety and depression. A major goal of social skills training is teaching the child about the verbal and nonverbal behaviors involved in social interactions. Social skills training can help Aspergers children learn to interpret these and other social signals so that they can determine how to act appropriately in the company of others in a variety of different situations. Social skills training assumes that when children improve their social skills or change selected behaviors, they will raise their self-esteem and increase the likelihood that others will respond favorably to them. I am ready to begin the work of teaching these skills to my Aspergers son. My husband has agreed to help with this endeavor as well. Thank you so much for your help and guidance.