The person responsible for the upbringing of the child

This is the original Bullyonline website developed by the late Tim Field. It is provided as a testament to his pioneering work. The person responsible for the upbringing of the child criticism, refusal to value, humiliation, threat, coercion?

Upbringing – what creates a serial bully? All abuse is violent, be it physical, emotional, psychological, or a combination. I define seven types of abuse below. The abuser is an individual who lives in a state of unusually high anxiety and who has not learnt to deal with that anxiety in the way normal people have.

The abuser is insecure, immature, and inadequate, especially in the areas of interpersonal and behavioural skills. If the abuse is of a sexual nature, the abuser is usually sexually inadequate. The high anxiety seems to be the result of an inability to relate to other people combined with the fear of exposure of that person’s inadequacy, immaturity and insecurity. This leads the abuser to want to control and dominate others, having never learnt how to interact with others in normal ways.

Abusers are usually brought up in a dysfunctional family. The more abusive the adult, the more dysfunctional the family. Often, the father, if present, is violent and abusive. Usually one or both parents are sociopathic or psychopathic. Before blaming the parents, the reason parents are dysfunctional is because they were brought up in dysfunctional families. Most people are never taught parenting skills.